My afternoon this
past Friday at work turned out to be interesting. I went to go ask a coworker a
question and that turned into a conversation with a VP and three other brokers.
The VP, we will call him *Panama, and we have *Forever Alone, *Mr. Fix it, and
finally *Divorcee. All wonderful people by the way. *Panama was talking to
*Forever Alone about dating and finding a girlfriend. I walked in on the part
when he said he is just going to get a mail order bride because he doesn’t want
to deal with the hassle of dating anymore. So the conversation about the kind
of women he wanted began from there. He was interested in having a wife that
would give him another child, stay home, cook, and clean. He wanted these
things because he didn’t have that in his first marriage. In his first marriage
his wife decided to work to get out of the house in return neglecting him, the
children, and the house all together. So he hired maids to do the work. *Mr.
Fix It jumps in and said that he wanted his wife to stay home; he makes enough
money to do it so they came to that agreement and he couldn’t be happier. They
have been married for almost 15 years now. It all came down to having submissive
women. *Forever Alone comes from a country where that concept is alive and
practiced but not to the extent where the women a being taken advantage of. She
said it is the point of having a balance and knowing the role. Believe it or
not most men want to be the provider and they don’t want much from their woman
besides someone who will allow them to be in control. Or at least making them
think that they are. *Panama wants that and doesn’t mind if his women shops
until she drops as long as they have a good home.
The men I work
with are very, very, rich and many of them are looking for a wife. Some are
still dogs too. However, I keep noticing the idea of having a submissive women
coming up. Check out this video from one of my favorite YouTuber’s to get a man’s
perspective and tell me what you think in the comments or via email!
Can I ask why he is one of your favourite youtubers or for you to post a link to one of your favourite videos? I got through about 4 minutes of that video, mostly because I thought it would become bearable but it didn't and I had to stop.
ReplyDeleteMaybe I'm one the chicks he's ranting about but I don't know because I couldn't make it through that to get to his point.
I like him because he talks about a bunch of random things. I wouldn't say that this video in particular is my favorite from him, it is just something from a man's point of view. Now, the idea of being submissive is something that a lot of women are not comfortable with. I just noticed that a lot of men that I encounter would prefer a woman with that characteristic.
ReplyDeleteIt seems that a lot of men seem to want a "submissive" wife, especially rich men. I wonder why that is? Is it because she would be under their control and unable to get out a bad situation because she now completely relies on him? Is it because they are insecure and really want to depend on the fact that she is not going to be independent enough to decide to leave him if she wants, or she won't be seeing other men at a workplace or be seen as available to other men? Is it because they are not sure if the women are there for them or the money? Everyone keeps saying that marriage is a partnership and it is, I would like to think that you should be able to be seen as equals, although a lot of women *older women* that I know have said that that is not the case.
ReplyDeleteI have been told because they decided to stay home to fit some archaic idea of what a woman is, they are treated as a second class citizen and if the man decides to drop them like a load of bricks, they find it hard to find work since they've only been a housewife for 15 years. Plus I love how these men are forgetting that the women that they seem to see as commodities *mail order brides for instance* also have dreams, goals, and wishes. My friend's mother was a Russian mail order bride and her dear husband took to locking her in so she wouldn't escape and run away. She said even after he stopped once she got pregnant, she couldn't run away because she couldn't speak the language *English* enough to survive. Thankfully my husband is not like this. We are both secure in our relationship because we chose each other. I respect him a lot, I go to him for advice, but it seems it also goes the other way. He respects my opinion and in marriage that is kind of crucial to be able to trust that your SO is going to be able to make good decisions even if you are not there. I think that's probably why a lot of women are not comfortable with it? Deep inside I think most women by instinct are afraid of submitting like that, and rightfully so.