Whether it was appropriate or not would you ask
your boyfriend for money? It is a given that you shouldn't ask someone
you only have been dating for a few weeks or even months, but what about
someone you have been with over a year?
I have been playing with the thought in my mind for
the last 48 hours. Should I ask my boyfriend for a little help? With that
being said, I recently ran into a major issue which prevented me from having
enough money to pay my cell phone bill. I asked my mother of course but wasn't
able to get help there and my good old dad just doesn't know how to answer his
phone.
The next person I considered was *Scott but I feel
like I shouldn't ask him for money. It wasn't like my cell phone bill is a lot
of money and I am sure he has it, I just couldn't bring myself to asking that
question. I'd let my phone get cut off and find a way to pay it for my self
before putting myself in that position.
I don't want to be a burden to him and seem needy.
Right now I am a full time student with little to no income so, when we are
together he foots the bill 100% of the time. When I am able to I pay as well.
The first thing that comes to my mind is "GOLD
DIGGER" and I don't want him to see me that way.
I do want to know if he is the type of person that
is willing to help if I needed it though. He may have said it verbally but I am
curious. Once I get back on track I promised myself that I would save enough
money so that if anything goes wrong again I won't need to ask anyone for help.
This is a hard one. I think on one of your tumblr post you mentioned that you two spoke about you concentrating on school rather than work and him providing you with support (granted that support doesn't probably mean total financial).
ReplyDeleteI have two friends that are in a relationship where the female provided some financial assistance but there have been together for a few years before she assisted him with paying a bill. I'm not too sure how long you to have been together and the fact that it is a small bill (cell phone) are factors that go for (bill) and against (time together) you asking him.
Long drawn out comment brought to end, I would talk to him about it. Talk about the bill you have, what happened if you deem necessary, what his firm thoughts are on assisting you and your fear of being a gold digger. I'm sure this might not be an easy conversation, especially if he feels he already said his part but now that it is confronting you affirmation maybe necessary.
We have been together over a year now and I just didn't feel like it was appropriate for me at the moment. He is fully aware of my concerns and fears of looking like a gold digger. He knows that I am not one though. My biggest fear is letting people in on my financial business. I don't even let my parents know what my finances are like. I got the bill paid though. So I didn't bring it up to him.
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