At least that is
what I am assuming. A few weeks ago *Scott and I were talking about something
that I can’t remember that lead to a conversation about love. He told me that
his roommates’ girlfriend said it to him. Me being the person that I am became
immediately excited to hear that. Then he interjected and said he didn’t say it
back. This morning when I woke up I checked my facebook and notice that she had
changed he relationship status from “in a
relationship with” to “single”. I
didn’t mention that I saw it to him though. She of course to avoid the public
shame of changing your relationship status, deleted the posting before anyone
can ask questions.
I guess he didn’t
love her back.
Things like this
make me nervous when it comes to telling *Scott that I love him. I know it is
only right to let him tell me first. I may have mentioned before that *Scott
and I say “you are my favorite”. I
think of it as our safe word instead of saying the big L word. I think I would
loose my marbles the day he tells me that.
But, do people
break up after a person say’s I love you and doesn’t get a reply? Would you
wait for the reply if you didn’t get an answer?
Sometimes! It's one of those things that's hard to overcome, mostly because it's extremely awkward. Imagine if you told Scott you loved him and he didn't respond, you wouldn't be able to take it back and you wouldn't be able to shake the fact that he didn't feel the same. It's a huge step and once you make it, as corny as it sounds, there's really no coming back. You either move forward together, or you're essentially stuck. Sorry for the lengthy response haha.
ReplyDeleteI agree with diam. I really think my heart would break if I said those words and didn't receive the same reply. I'm a shy and retentive person so it would take a lot for me to say it. Saying I love you shows and presents your vulnerability. If I didn't hear it back I would also second guess myself and where I thought the relationship was and where it was heading. Some of my anxiety would be about him but a lot of it would be about me. I don't think I could proceed with the relationship in the same vein. I might stay around but the relationship would be broken and I would need to know where his thoughts lay. I would have to know can he eventually love me, ever love me. It might not be fair to him because I could potentially put pressure on him. All this could lead to breaking up.
ReplyDeleteI would never be the one to say, "I love you" first. Even if I did feel it. My pride gets the best of me. However, I don't know what I would do if I said it and didn't hear it back.... I would be heart broken like no tomorrow. I think its different the other way around. We as women, expect the guy to stay, even if we don't say it back. And this is where I believe the girl went wrong. She shouldn't have broken up with him. She should have given him time to feel the same. So with that being said, I believe I would have stuck around. Even though it wouldn't be the same. There would be this big cloud in btwn us.
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