Can Love Ruin a Relationship?

I tend to over react I swear. Last night *Scott and I went to happy hour at No Idea, the same place I got completely trashed a few months back. He wanted to go out to support his friend *Vee who had just ended his relationship with his girlfriend. Drinking is not the way to solve anything but hey, I wont turn down a night out. *Vee began to spill his guts about his relationship. I felt really bad about it because I thought his girlfriend was something special to have tied him down. In the end, in my opinion, she was super needy and likes to play mind games. She wanted to play miss independent role and would get upset with him when she really wants him to be up in her ass and chase her. Somehow I ended up getting drunk and therefore emotional. He told me how he told her he loved her and she didn’t say it back. When I heard that I instantly got upset because *Scott has yet to say those three magic words to me. How is it that in 4 months *Vee has been with his girl he could truly tell her how he feels and  Scott has never uttered the words to me and we have been together 20 times longer. Keep in mind I am drunk and emotional (De you better not be laughing at me if you read this). All I could do is replay that in my mind over and over again.  I told *Vee that I can only reason I can think he never said it to me was because he had been hurt before. Maybe he told an old girlfriend that he loved her and they broke his heart. It also made me think about my recent story about his roommate who’s girlfriend at the time told him she loved him and he didn’t say it back to her. They have been together longer them *Scott and I. All I could think about his that he was using her. You know how you feel for someone and it doesn’t take years to figure it out. When you tell someone you love them that doesn’t mean, “lets get married tomorrow”. It means that you care for them on a deeper level. Now does that change the dynamic of the relationship? Perhaps. Now the hardest part is *Scott wants to read this. If he does that can change things between us if he doesn’t love me. Why? .. I would just feel like a friend to him and that scares me. I prefer to ride off into the sunset in ignorant bliss than to have this conversation with him. Thoughts?